John F. Taylor – Oppositional, Aggressive, Attention-Seeking & Uncooperative Children, Teens and Young Adults: High-Impact Strategies to Reduce Chronic Misbehavior

Outline

Uncover Misbehavior’s Hidden Motives

• The 5 “needs” that drive all misbehavior
• 15 maladaptive ways teens guard against feeling hurt
• 14 keys to stop misbehavior

Use High-Impact Interviewing

• Respond effectively to “I don’t know”, “It’s not my fault”, and “I don’t care”
• 10 dynamite probes to unearth hidden motives
• Reduce defensiveness and build trust

Improve Social Skills and Self-control

• Bolster temptation resistance
• Sharpen decision-making and problem-solving
• Upgrade apology skills
• Impart healthy handling of anger

Resolve Attention-seeking and Power-displaying behavior

• Effective strategies for “You can’t make me!”
• 16 techniques for the bossy teen
• 10 tools for “notice me more”

Resolve Malicious Misbehavior

• Teach important insights about revenge
• Prevent bullying and threats
• Decrease vandalism
• 9 answers for the “look tough, act tough” teen

Resolve Irresponsible and Self-destructive Misbehavior

• 30 answers for “I can’t do it” cop-outs
• Rebuild self-confidence
• Strengthen stress coping skills

Adapt Your Intervention to Each Client

• Recognize the limitations of every approach
• The client’s unique perspective is pivotal
• Determine how the child perceives the world/people/self
• Interpret the child’s actions as an attempt to express autonomy and belonging

Help Teachers and Parents

• Stay out of “ignore-nag-yell-punish” cycles
• Develop conscience without punishing or attacking
• Refine empathy skills
• Sidestep power struggles
• Improve cooperation with chores and routines
• Reduce sibling rivalry and improve family dynamics